Whats in a relationship (2007)

Hii!! haha well here comes another topic on an action of expression that humanity does all the time... Yes it's a relationship..

Well define a relationship.. to put it easily, it's usually the scene you see at local shopping centers. A guy and a girl holding hands walking side by side smiling widely as if no one knows that they are together.. Exception cases of course are guy and guy, girl and girl, parents and children. Lol!!

But what is a relationship!? What? Is it saying "I love you" & "I miss you" or "You mean a lot to me" and etc and thats all there is to it? OF course not! But first timers tend to think that thats all to a relationship.. especially the guys. The girls may have real feelings for the guy but first timer guys tend to just go with the flow and "experiment" with the relationship but not actually indulging in it. But of course there are exceptions that a guy actually falls in love or actually puts his time and effort into the relationship..

What IS HE talking ABOUT?? you may ask..
Ask a person about a relationship and the first thing that pops to mind would be..
- holding hands
- kissing
- making out
- going out
- movies
- dark places
- "I love you" "Be mine" "miss you"
- spending money$$$
- PDA (Public Display of Affection)
- sexy body(guys)
- cutie that belongs to me(girls)

Well theres a lot more but this is a blog post not an english essay..
Sure Sure above all happens in a relationship but is it THAT important...
It's important in a sense that both enjoy the fun in doing "stuff"
but what happens when a serious matter happens between the couple or when they try to talk about future plans or things that are out of the "topic".. Here walks in our friends "doubt" & "uncertainty"

Many couples tend to argue even for the most simple things like who is suppose to put the phone down first or why didn't you call me last night... And sometimes this even leads to potential break ups.
Point is that a relationship is no joke. It takes commitment and time and patience to let it grow and blossom. Like a flower...

Here we see what's is REALLY in a relationship..

1)Mutual respect- are you really who you say you are. A Gf or Bf tend to act like somebody they are not to please the other. Are you doing that?? Respect in a relationship is that both the Gf and Bf must be able to value and accept who their partner really is. And would give them the space they need.

2)Trust- A really easy example would.. You are talking to this cute boy in a coffee shop and having a good time and your boyfriend walks by. Does he take it nicely because he knows you well enough and trusts that you would never cheat on him? It's natural to feel jealous sometimes but never let jealousy take control of how you think of a partner. A relationship without trust is like bread without butter.. Hehe

3)Honesty- the best policy. This works together with trust as a whole. How can your partner trust you is you yourself is not honest with him or her. For example, your boyfriend catches you at the movies with your friends when in fact YOU told HIM you were STUDYING..what would he think. He would have to think twice before ever trusting you again.

4) Support - It's the times when you are down that you will need a shoulder to lean on. OF course your best friends and parents are always there but your partner would be a better choice. You can rely on them to always be there even though they have to be somewhere else. And you can always tell them everything there is that hurts you.

5) Fairness- there is no such thing as a one sided relationship that works. It's always about the give and take. Do you take turns choosing where to eat or the types of movies to see. Or are you always the one keeping quiet because you are scared that it may be a stupid idea. As a couple, do you spend more times with your friends or your partner? Of course im not asking you to keep track but and make sure the ratio is always 1:1. Just keep it in a fair balance.

6) Living a different life - before you were in a relationship, you were going out for sports, hanging out with friends and spending time with your family. That doesn't need to change just because you are in a relationship. Live your life as it was and just add your partner into the picture. Of course you are suppose to make compromises but that does not mean that you have to like something you hate or hate something you like.

7) Good communication- Ever heard the saying " a girl never means what they say", No means yes and yes means no? The phrase "nothings wrong" can easily be badly interpreted depending on who is saying it. But don't ever guess what the other is saying. Instead, Just come out straight and ask what you do not understand so there are no miscommunication. Never keep a feeling bottled up because you're afraid it's not what your BF or GF wants to hear or because you worry about sounding silly.

Well i can't say that im an expert at "LOVE" but i do have experiences and by looking at other couples around me. This is what i could write. Hope you enjoyed it.

Next to come~~ How can i tell that my relationship is not working?~~ coming soon.. Hehe